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Newbiespud 24th Jan 2019, 6:00 AM edit delete
Newbiespud
For all of his natural abrasiveness, Discord strikes me as a very positive-minded creature most of the time, forgetting momentary annoyances and mainly only remembering the happy parts later.

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Digo Dragon 24th Jan 2019, 6:06 AM edit delete reply
Digo Dragon
"forgetting momentary annoyances and mainly only remembering the happy parts later"

Something something Rose-Colored Glasses something. That tends to be a detail of problem-players in my experience--they don't seem to remember the negative parts. The GM only figured that out a bit too late when he asked Discord about their previous game and had a sudden epiphany. Well, better late than never with the GM, and hopefully Discord himself figures it out.
Randonimity 24th Jan 2019, 10:17 AM edit delete reply
Randonimity
It might be because they're also not the ones who were miserable for most of the session. To them, it was all great fun! They got to do what they wanted, how could it have been a bad session?

It's because of horror stories about problem players that I always ask the other players in my games for feedback on my performance/behavior/attitude either at the table or in private (when the player is somewhat shy and don't want "face-to-face confrontation").
Digo Dragon 24th Jan 2019, 11:26 AM edit delete reply
Digo Dragon
Indeed, it is as you say. If the problem-players can be taught empathy towards the pother players, they might learn to be better in the future.

I too ask my players for feedback. It works well in privacy, like this one time years back that a player had an issue with my Wild Magic rules and I never knew because he didn't say anything at the table when I asked the group about them. I only found out from a spectator who watched a session and had a conversation with the player after the session.
Randonimity 24th Jan 2019, 7:11 PM edit delete reply
Randonimity
RE the wild magic thing - It might have also been something they realized later after the session and having an "objective outside party" to discuss their feelings with helped things click? But I'm glad you were able to talk things out with your player :)
Free 24th Jan 2019, 4:30 PM edit delete reply
Is it? Or is it better to brush off the negativity of an event rather than dwell upon it, moving past it and on to new experiences with a positive outlook? DiscorDM has obviously been at this for a long time. I'm sure this is not the first table that hasn't vibed with his playstyle, but he's also had positive experiences using it, so why should he change? Which experience is more valid? Who gets to decide who is a "problem" and who just isn't a good fit? And, really, what is he supposed to do about this except take the out when even his actual friend at the table is more concerned with their own guilt than talking to him? He *knows* they're all upset, he knows *why* they're upset. This was a very quick exit and these players haven't been shown to be mean or petty people, so I'm pretty sure no one said goodbye or even the more polite players like Rarebear got to thank him for at least stopping by only because he didn't give them the *chance* to say anything.

DiscorDM acknowledges he doesn't fit this table and accepts their feelings about it; he's not holding it against them or displaying any sign of bitterness about being essentially told to leave, though he clearly understands exactly what is happening. That, to me, is NOT the behavior of a "problem player." I think it's also an admirable trait that he isn't going to let it stop him doing what he does the way he wants to do it. This is a hobby, something he does for fun; there's no reason for him to get bent out of shape about one bad session when there are so many more things to look forward to. I wish I had that kind of self-confidence to deal with criticism and accept it without taking every little thing to heart, even from strangers, much less friends. Yeah, I always have something to work on and I never want to stop improving myself and my skills, but just because someone doesn't like some particular aspect of my personality or work, doesn't mean it has to spiral into some deep self-evaluation every single time. And while I fully expect we'll get more insight on his actual, personal feelings in the next page or two, at this moment, I'm very impressed with his decorum and maturity about it.
Zaranthan 25th Jan 2019, 1:11 AM edit delete reply
"there's no reason for him to get bent out of shape about one bad session when there are so many more things to look forward to."

Discord has a massive advantage over most of us TTRPG players: the prospect of playing with different people.

For most of us, we've found the 3-5 other people who want to spend their spare time rolling the